Do you have a sister or a brother?If you do,you can really relate to this entry of mine.It's about sibling rivalry.
Sibling rivalry are very common to almost all families.Sibling rivalry happens when a sister vs. sister,brother vs. brother, or brother vs. sister occurs.Well,we must understand that children's minds are not broad yet to understand all the things that they must understand.One of the common cause of sibling rivalry is when a child senses favoratism in the family.Ever experienced going out with friends and coming home late?Then you are welcomed by your parents by scolding because you passed your curfew time.And then,this sister or brother of yours comes home from a not so important trip and passes his or her curfew time but does not get a scold from your parents.Orwhen you forgot to do your intended chores at home and as punishment,you are grounded and banned to use your cell.While your sister or brother also forgot his or her chores but your parents will just say,"Pasagdii nalang gani".Another example is when you and your younger sibling made a mistake and even though the two of you made the mistake,you always get the blame and your parents a reason is that you should be responsible to your sibling being the older one.Have you experienced too,when everytime you change the channel in your television,your parents scold you but whenever your other brother or sister,they just let them change the channel.These really are the common causes of sibling rivalry,aren't they?Well,another cause of sibling rivalry is when other people compare you from your brother or sister.Just like whe your sibling is good in Math and English and you are just good in basketball or badminton.People may compare you and may say that you must follow your sibling who is academically good and that you must not just focus in your abilities in sports.It may sound so bias but some really experience this unequality of treatment.For me there are some ways to solve this sibling rivalry.First you must know the reason why your parents are stricter in you than your sibling or maybe you are just imagining that they are stricter in you than your other sibling.You must tell them your hurtings by the inequality of treatment they show to you.You must also understand whatever reasons they may give you because sometimes,we misunderstand their actions.Maybe one of the reason why they treat you like that is because you have done something that disappointed them or something that broke their trust on you.You must let them understand that you didn't mean to do those things which broke their trust on you.One solution to stop the comparison between you and your sibling is that when people will ask you,what you are good at,tell them what your abilities are but also tell them the abilities of your sibling.Just like if you tell them,"I'm good in basketball or badminton while my other sibling is good in English and Math".That way,they will know that you and your sibling are not competing against each other and that you two accept that each can have an ability which is either present or absent in you.
We must remember that sibling rivalry is just normal to all families.You just have to make sure that you don't hold a grudge to anyone of your sibling.You must understand them so that they will also understand you.
Sibling rivalry are very common to almost all families.Sibling rivalry happens when a sister vs. sister,brother vs. brother, or brother vs. sister occurs.Well,we must understand that children's minds are not broad yet to understand all the things that they must understand.One of the common cause of sibling rivalry is when a child senses favoratism in the family.Ever experienced going out with friends and coming home late?Then you are welcomed by your parents by scolding because you passed your curfew time.And then,this sister or brother of yours comes home from a not so important trip and passes his or her curfew time but does not get a scold from your parents.Orwhen you forgot to do your intended chores at home and as punishment,you are grounded and banned to use your cell.While your sister or brother also forgot his or her chores but your parents will just say,"Pasagdii nalang gani".Another example is when you and your younger sibling made a mistake and even though the two of you made the mistake,you always get the blame and your parents a reason is that you should be responsible to your sibling being the older one.Have you experienced too,when everytime you change the channel in your television,your parents scold you but whenever your other brother or sister,they just let them change the channel.These really are the common causes of sibling rivalry,aren't they?Well,another cause of sibling rivalry is when other people compare you from your brother or sister.Just like whe your sibling is good in Math and English and you are just good in basketball or badminton.People may compare you and may say that you must follow your sibling who is academically good and that you must not just focus in your abilities in sports.It may sound so bias but some really experience this unequality of treatment.For me there are some ways to solve this sibling rivalry.First you must know the reason why your parents are stricter in you than your sibling or maybe you are just imagining that they are stricter in you than your other sibling.You must tell them your hurtings by the inequality of treatment they show to you.You must also understand whatever reasons they may give you because sometimes,we misunderstand their actions.Maybe one of the reason why they treat you like that is because you have done something that disappointed them or something that broke their trust on you.You must let them understand that you didn't mean to do those things which broke their trust on you.One solution to stop the comparison between you and your sibling is that when people will ask you,what you are good at,tell them what your abilities are but also tell them the abilities of your sibling.Just like if you tell them,"I'm good in basketball or badminton while my other sibling is good in English and Math".That way,they will know that you and your sibling are not competing against each other and that you two accept that each can have an ability which is either present or absent in you.
We must remember that sibling rivalry is just normal to all families.You just have to make sure that you don't hold a grudge to anyone of your sibling.You must understand them so that they will also understand you.
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